There’s no I in TEAM

Post written by Fred Reed.

photo courtesy of shortiestar3000

There is no I in Team.

Most of us have heard this statement before particularly those of us who have participate in some sort of a team event. But this also holds true in marriage. The Bible tells us that “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and become united to his wife and the two shall become one flesh”(Ephesians 5:31). We have all at one point or another come across this verse. Think about the last few words “the two shall become one flesh” to me this says that both husband and wife have to have an active roll in becoming one. This is not just up to the husband nor is this just up to the wife but we both have a responsibility in the oneness roll. Marriage is a partnership of two individuals with different styles, backgrounds and personalities.

None of us were given a “Complete Guide to Being Married” handbook and so we have had to do things thru trial and error. Hopefully, the few errors we have the better it is. In marriage we can become a bit self-centered especially if you were an individual used to doing things for yourself. But marriage is really about being selfless it’s about putting your spouse first. I know, I know, I hear the grumblings already. Man, what in the world are you talking about putting my spouse first. You have to be kidding me. No, I am not kidding you. We as a society have been so condition to take care of ourselves first. Phrases like “You Deserve it” or “Have it your way” just to name a few, inspire us to take care of ourselves. And yes you need to take care of yourself, you have to take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself you can fall into a space of resentment. Ask yourselves this, when was the last time you’ve asked your spouse if there was anything that you could do to help their day. Or, how about the dreams and goals that they may have and how you could help them pursue their goals/dreams or a simple “How is your day sweetie?.” You see if you don’t have any idea what your spouse’s goals are and all you talk about is what you want to accomplish or if you have even gone as far as two develop a plan for your goals but never seeking the opinion of your spouse, then I would say that you have become a bit self-centered. My wife is the most important person in my life. My hierarchy is : God, My Wife(notice the uppercase W) and then myself. Yes, I said it, I consider my Wife to be more important than myself. She is my queen. Now that doesn’t mean that I completely neglect myself. Marriage isn’t always about who is right and who was wrong, to me it’s about the marriage winning.

I’ll leave you with this thought, think about being in a 3-legged race. You and your spouse have your legs tied together. You hold one another because it provides stability, you don’t try outrun one another because it can cause you to fall and lose the race. You have to work together both with different physical attributes for the Good of the team. If I try to win it has a negative impact on the team success and if my spouse tries to win that can have a negative impact as well. Are you willing to win the race as a TEAM?

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Fridays with Fred

Post written by Fred Reed.

photo courtesy of apdk

Hello to all ~
My name is Fred Reed and I am excited about being able to share with
All of who are willing to listen, regarding the subject on marriage. I have been
Married for over 21 years to a very wonderful woman. In today’s time 21 years may be considered by most to be somewhat of a relic. I am not a professional by any means nor am I “Doctor Phil” but I do have a passion for marriage and have a great deal of respect for it. You may disagree with some things and agree with others and this is all fine. I am
Not a “know-it-all” and welcome any insight that some of you will have. Again, I look forward to sharing with you in the upcoming weeks.

Fred Reed

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